4. Don't discuss the sexual prowess—or the sexual blunders—of past partners. Period. Yes, partner, we know you've had sex before.
Yes, we're aware you're not some otherworldly, virginal being we've been sent to deflower in some sacred, magical union. But Sexy Time is supposed to be about us…not us and all the people we've slept with in the past. Nothing will get your head out of the game faster than the thought that your partner is thinking about her ex.
5. Don't try to slip it in the backdoor without warning.
And then pretend it was totally an accident. We all know better.
6. Don't treat his head like a steering wheel when you're receiving oral sex.
Both because it's rude and because it's unpleasant to suddenly be suffocating on whatever's between one's lips. If you want to give feedback, try a more hands-off approach: Oh, yeah…that feels good…deeper…deeper…more…more…touch my balls.
7. As an extension of the item above, don't be critical.
Even in your head. Yes, we know that you may be comparing and judging every move. But take it upon yourself to release all those opinions and get into the moment. To do this, talk about what feels good and what you wish your partner would do to you, or lead by example. Frame things in a positive light. No one wants to feel judged when they're naked and vulnerable.
8. On the other end of the spectrum, don't be mute.
Your partner can't read your mind. If you're not having a good time in bed, that's on you. Speak up about what you'd like more of and what makes you feel good.
9. Don't fake the big O.
This is as bad—and as misleading—as not saying anything at all and will only lead to terrible, or sub-par, sex in the future. When you fake your orgasm, your partner assumes he (Men do fake it too) did everything right. As a result, he or she continues to do everything wrong. (A caveat: I'm not saying an orgasm is the only indicator of great sex. There are plenty of ways to have fun in bed.)
10. Finally, don't sprint from the bed as soon as your partner rolls over and jump into the shower as if your immune system depended upon it because EWW GROSS COOTIES.
Sure, a hot shower can feel nice post-sex. But use some tact, for God's sake.
*OK. This one is obviously about me.
—Written by Steph Auteri for HowAboutWe
All very important points to keep in mind! What would you add to the list?
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