2. The pressure to act extra romantic. If you're clearly in an established relationship, he probably knows to do something, but that doesn't mean he likes being expected to produce romance on demand.
Straight from the men themselves: "Even when we are seriously dating, it feels inauthentic and very pressuring to be the superhero version of Most Romantic Boyfriend Ever. The truth is, we're the same guy we were yesterday and we'd rather just be our normal romantic selves."
3. Being single. Oh, you thought you were the only one who felt crappy about being alone on February 14th, ladies? Think again. Jean and Balazs are both attached these days, but they know that single guys don't love being Valentine's bachelors.
Straight from the men themselves: "It's really annoying to watch a million couples making out in front of us when we don't have anyone special, but luckily, there's still time to find someone cool. Since DateMySchool users tend to land dates within 30 minutes, you should take advantage of that if you want a valentine. (Yes, we're also biased. It's our site.)"
4. Finding the perfect gift. Even when he wants to say something special with a present, the problem is he's not really sure how to do it.
Straight from the men themselves: "A dozen roses or box of chocolates is super convenient, but we know it's not original. However, we're still trying to figure out what the ideal gift is, so ladies, please let us know in the comments below, thx! :)"
They're right, this IS confusing: Jean says, "My friend wanted to get his girlfriend an Hermès scarf this year, but I told him he should get her something more sentimental. So, he ordered these handmade necklaces on Etsy that I think have her birthstone or something... either way, it was very specific to his girlfriend. Anyway, her best friend finds out and tells him, 'Are you crazy!? Of course you should have gotten her the Hermès scarf!'"
5. Bills, bills, bills. Love doesn't make money grow on trees, and someone's gotta pay for all this expensive romance. Let's be honest, it's probably him.
Straight from the men themselves: "Of course we want to take you out for dinner and get you a nice gift, but we also want to make you happy without going into debt."
However, this one's debatable. Witness the disagreement below:
Balazs: "I can't rationalize spending hundreds of dollars just to be romantic on a day that isn't even naturally romantic, like it's so contrived, I'd rather do something special on a day that actually means something to me and my girlfriend."
Jean: "OK, Balazs is obviously wrong. I will spend anything on a woman I care about for Valentine's Day."
Awww, Jean, that's sweet. I think you'll find most women don't actually care about the money spent, but our opinions might be divided between that Hermès scarf and a necklace. I'll take either, if anyone's asking.
For the love of love, ladies, tell these fellas what to get a girl for Valentine's Day! And your turn to complain: What do you hate about the holiday?
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