There are some questions about men that only a guy can answer. We asked the dudes at guyspeak.com (read more about them here), for their take on this dating conundrum:
Q: Is it all right for me to want to kiss and touch my man whenever I feel like it? This is my first serious relationship. I don't want to seem too clingy, but every time I see him, my hormones come to life.
Couple embracing on bed
Getty Images/Creatas RFYes, it is all right. Better than all right, in fact.
Affection is a beautiful thing. You are in love and you want to express it—more power to you. I don't think displays of affection make someone seem clingy. To me, clingy is a figurative term, anyway, more emotional than physical. I think of clingy as someone who relies on her partner to meet every need and has trouble being apart from him, not necessarily someone who can't keep her hands off him. (If she does it in public for show, that's a different animal; I'm not talking about PDA here.)
The human body needs touch; we thrive on it and suffer without it. I'm sure you've heard the stories of babies in orphanages who develop physical and psychological problems due to deprivation of human touch. Some refer to this as skin hunger, and it's a real condition. Studies have also shown that premature babies who are held and massaged by human hands grow faster than those who get less touch.
My opinion is this: if you feel something, show it. If your heart tells you to be affectionate, be affectionate, in word and in deed, openly and proudly and with gusto. Yes, you risk looking like a fool, but if you get in the habit of suppressing yourself, you will miss out on a lot of joy in life. Affection also comes back to you: the more you give, the more you get.
